Dr. Terry A. Gordon

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February 2015
LIFE ISN’T UNFAIR

Dr. Terry A. Gordon

    Life isn’t unfair… it is always fair!

    Now, I can imagine the tremendous leap of faith that embracing this premise might require. We’ve all posed the question: “Why me? Why do bad things happen to good people? How can a good God allow such injustices to occur?”

    None of us is immune to seemingly negative occurrences, but life’s events become calamities only if we make the conscious decision to make tragedies out of them. The storms in one’s life, while they have the potential of creating incapacitating turbulence in the mind, do not have to.

    We might just as easily choose to view them as being in perfect order, offering us opportunities for personal growth. These so-called tragedies can actually become the driving force of change. The question then becomes — is there really such a thing as a negative experience?

    The gift of each of these apparently negative events is a tool from the Divine that can help nurture our spiritual progress. The more daunting the obstacle, the greater potential there is for personal growth. From the ancient mystical text of Judaism, the Kabbalah: “The falls of our life provide the energy to propel ourselves to a much higher level.”

    God has never created a storm that lasts forever. And despite the darkness of the most foreboding storm clouds, the sun is always shining somewhere. The challenge becomes adjusting one’s perception of events enough to recognize the presence of God within the experience.

    In doing so, we must look beyond what the mind wants to judge as good or bad. After all, peace is not in finding yourself without any conflict or strife. Peace is the actual experiencing of God’s presence especially when your life appears to be inescapably in turmoil.

    I have found that rather than lamenting so-called adversities and becoming victimized by them, I am much better off choosing instead to be grateful for them, embracing and accepting them as gifts from God, knowing that within them lie important lessons that can promote my spiritual development.

    The difficulties we face can be a source of strength, enabling us to rise above perceived adversity. Accepting that premise, I am deserving of the heartache. I am worthy of the difficult lessons God has given me. The question then becomes not “Why me?” but “Why not me?”

    It’s all in changing the thought, changing your perspective… changing your outlook. The choice is simple: become the victim, licking your wounds while resisting. This will result in turmoil, pain and immense suffering.

    Or you can transcend above the quagmire, choosing instead to be accepting of the magnanimous gift.

    The key is to exalt in the falls of your life; Embrace them! For they offer us the milieu to transform, giving us the springboard to rise above the turmoil, disappointment and suffering, transcending to the place where understanding, growth, enlightenment and yes, complete healing occur.

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